Is heartache growth?

Why is it in our lowest we find a way to keep moving and growing and changing why does it take (sometimes) hitting rock bottom. Before we get help or before people realize you need help. I think Santcus Reals says it the best in one of their songs "He gives and He takes and it makes us stronger" For me I see that yeah i'm a little lonly but for me to be with anyone to think of not myself but a family before me. To do whats in my best intrest sure it matter but it never mattered so much until now, stand here looking at the rest of my life realizing that whats in best intrest is no longer just an option to take it's the best road, sure I can try to fit the system and make my own way do what I want because I want it. But I know that's selfish, and in the end it may work out but to save myself, my kids, my wife and family from heartache of that kind. All I know is I the way I think needs to change......